In a narcissistic smear campaign, often perpetrated on individuals the narcissist feels intensely threatened by, some if not all actions are carried out by third party players frequently referred to as “Flying Monkeys”. These “Flying Monkeys” often engage in the frontline destructive behaviors by helping spread misinformation about the victim, engaging in verbal abuse of the said target, and even at times going as far as helping a personality disordered individual stalk their victim. Books, scholarly opinions, former recipients of abuse, and many more out there all seem to carry similar beliefs on why “Flying Monkeys” engage in smear campaign behaviors.
Some of their beliefs are that “Flying Monkeys” themselves exhibit highly narcissistic behaviors, and therefore often share the same goal towards the targeted individual. That the engaging behaviors of the “Flying Monkeys” are really just exposing how they always felt about the victim. Even theorizing that they might enjoy the darker aspects of life, and therefore find pleasure in harming others. For some “Flying Monkeys” this is most likely and rings true. On the other hand, is this really the case for others?
Just observing the different “Flying Monkeys” over the years leads me to a different opinion about many. Granted most people consider observations antidotal in themselves. However, what is science if not gathering information and making observations off of a new hypothesis. Also, the likelihood of gathering “Flying Monkeys” together in order to study, with a controlled group, is pretty low. Sometimes all that people are left with is sifting through experiences and knowledge they’ve gained in order to make the best judgment.
In my experience, I often see the delusional “Flying Monkeys” being a greater issue. These “Flying Monkeys” all seem to exhibit some of the same qualities. They often have a history of some type of abuse in their past or present lives. A deep need to feel like they belong and are accepted. Have a savior complex in which they carry a deeply held belief that they are somehow attaining justice by their actions. They often seem to exhibit highly paranoid thinking, and frequently seem to struggle with some type of mind altering addiction, which could be where the easily controlled issue stems. “Flying Monkeys” often seem to lack knowledge of boundaries, self awareness, and the ability to accurately discern information.
It’s actually quite unfortunate. I once knew this individual who engaged in “Flying Monkey” behavior for a deeply personality disordered individual. This person, let’s call her “Sally”, genuinely believed that they were in a friendship with this cluster B individual. Sally’s beliefs were not rooted in reality. In actuality the disordered narcissistic individual exhibited dislike for this very individual. They would not actually spend time with Sally, they kept their children from being around Sally and her family, and they even went as far as keeping Sally from any social media access. At the same time this deeply disordered individual would engage in constant conversation and manipulation with Sally around the misinformation surrounding the targeted victim. Sally let herself live in the delusional word were this back and forth bad behaviors meant she was somehow connected to the disordered individual, and even liked by them.
In other instances I have observed “Flying Monkeys” who never even engaged in a single conversation with their intended target. They had convinced themselves that they righteously understood the situation. They never were an actual witness to the slander they spread. Nor did they observe or gather credible information about their target. In actuality these “Flying Monkeys” were aligning with a predatory individual who had been released from the school system for inappropriate behaviors. Besides, even with most of these individuals I often wonder how many actually had a real friendship with this cluster B Predator.
It’s easy to think the worst of “Flying Monkeys” especially when they themselves are engaging in very destructive behaviors. However, it’s also true that these delusional individuals need more knowledge, awareness, and for some, probably medical intervention. It’s unfortunate that weaker minded individuals are often taken advantage of by disordered individuals. Maybe if people were more aware of falling into these sadistic traps, there would be less “Flying Monkeys” to do these narcissistic individuals’ bidding.
*All articles are the expressed opinions of the author, they are meant to spark conversation/thoughts around various subjects of public interest, and are not meant to be taken as professional advice. Please use proper services if in need of professional help. Also, names are changed to protect individuals.